Sunday, September 22, 2013

our decision regarding adhd

Our choice to put Kayla on medicine for adhd wasn't an easy one. It was hard. It's still hard. A lot of days I still have this battle going on in my head about whether it's the right choice or not. But deep down I know it's the right choice. The right choice for us.

2 years ago I walked out of a psychiatrists office with a prescription in my hand. We had only spent a total of 30 minutes talking to that man. I felt a little uneasy, which is kinda funny because all that I wanted up until that point was to get her on medicine. To get her something that would help her. But now that I had a prescription for adderall I wasn't so sure I wanted to give it to her. I researched the pros and cons. The side effects. And finally after some debating I decided to give it to her. I could at least try it for a few weeks and see if it made a difference and if I decided to stop giving it to her, well, it would be out of her system the next day and as if she never even took it. 

So she took it. And she was focused and determined. I remember giving it to her that first Saturday when she had a soccer game. Her eyes were focused on the ball and she was determined to get as many goals as she could. She listened to us. We never had to repeat anything to her unlike before when we would repeat ourselves all day long. She's always been into art so she did art as much as she could. She would color and cut and paste and color and cut and paste all day long, even in the car. I later learned that they have a name for that, which I can't remember at the moment. All of these things were what I considered good side effects. But there were some bad ones.

On adderall Kayla wouldn't eat. We would have to force her to eat. And everyday at 3 pm she would become extremely emotional. She would spend most of her time from 3 pm until bedtime crying, like hysterically crying. And when we went back to her psychiatrist he suggested upping her dose or giving her a second dose in the afternoon. But I wasn't comfortable with that. So I dealt with it, figuring that's how it was suppose to be. We never made it back to a third appointment with that doctor. His schedule was so tight and I was tired of the back and forth phone calls of trying to get us in to see him that I decided to stop going. And I never went back to get another prescription which was probably the best thing that ever happened.

I decided we could do this on our own. Kayla was starting kindergarten. She would be gone most of the day so our time together would be limited. I thought we would be able to enjoy each other more since we both got a "break." But that wasn't true. I spent the whole school year and summer yelling at her. all. day. every. day. We couldn't even enjoy an outing that was suppose to be fun because she just couldn't listen. She just couldn't focus. She just couldn't control herself even though she so badly wanted to.

I decided to make an appointment with a therapist. We did behavioral therapy for awhile. I was to do a behavior chart. I was to only tell her to do one thing at a time. Instead of telling her to clean her room I was to tell her to clean her barbies. Then when she was done with her barbies I was to tell her to clean up her books but we never made it to cleaning up her books. So we made an appointment with another psychiatrist. One our behavioral therapist who I really like recommended.

When we finally went in for our appointment I told him our story and he told me this...

What we want with the medicine is two things. Number one. No side effects. The minute you see a side effect you don't like stop the medicine. And number two. For it to work.

So that's the whole find a medicine with no side effects, that works and yet still lets Kayla be Kayla. Now I get it. Now I haven't seen a lot of doctors regarding medicine and I know some may disagree with what our doctor said but it worked for us. And luckily the first medicine he prescribed worked for her. She is focused. She is determined. She can now fully listen to what is said to her. She still loves to color and cut and paste. But she eats now. She isn't emotional. And her teacher sent me this email which lets me know I did the right thing.

We are in a happy place. And that's something a couple months ago I thought we would never be at.

**I'm NOT suggesting for every child with adhd to be on medicine. I'm just putting it out there what we went through and what works for us so that maybe it might help someone else. I would appreciate it if you do not judge what we have decided to do. We love our daughter and truly believe we have made the right decision for her. Please do not tell me to just change her diet or that she's just being a kid. We have seen a few different doctors, therapists and psychologists and have made this decision after a lot of research and information. Thank you. And if you are considering medicine as a form of treatment please know there are many different ones at there. They may not all work for your child but if you find the right doctor they will be there every step of the way, guiding you and taking your phone calls every day until you find what works. 


  1. You are a wonderful mom and it is clear that you have done all of this with love for Kayla at the forefront! I'm so glad to hear she is responding so well to her medicine and that you are enjoying each other!

  2. What a challenge. It sounds like things are really looking up right now. Congrats!



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